Kind to Other People

By : Supardi Lee

His heart was crushed. He feels he has done everything. He tried to be a good boss. So he filled the needs of its staff. The staff need to improve the quality of theyself. So all of his staff sent to a self-development training. Training was famous and expensive. The staff need refreshing. So he invited all the staff and their families on vacation.

But why their performance not up? Why always happen a lot of mistakes in his office? Why they are not followed his order? Why are many omissions occur even his office was theft? Why did he have to get angry first to make everyone work properly?

A friend complained about these things. Have the same thing happen to you? You feel you've tried maximum to others, but it turned out your hope never met. Disappointment was always in your hearth.

What cause it? I found the answer in a simple story.

A wealthy man preparing tons of bags full of gold to be distributed to the needy. That is the evidence that he was happy to share and do good for others. He thought, he could solved problem to many people with his gold.

So he was around town. The people greet him with joy. Poor people very grateful to him. Many kissed his hand. So he went home with happy hearts. The good intentions greeted extraordinary. Hope many poor people will improved their life. He continued to do it again. Every time he did so, each time he came home with a heart of satisfied and happy.

Until one day, a fact appeared. Hope for his actions make poor people have a better life, was not proven. He finds that poor people remain poor. Gold that he gave it makes them happy and helpful. But only a few days, gold was already exhausted. They returned to the conditions of misery. Until he arrived with the gold again. And that's what happened. Repeatedly. He thought he was doing the best for poor people to changed their life. Apparently he was wrong.

So he change his deeds. Gold is to be shared he used to build a plant. He trained poor people to skilled and can work well in the factory. Their income increases. In fact they are so pleased to learn on their own. The rich man was happy. His good intentions successfully. So he start to build the factories with the same noble purpose.

Dear friends, be good in the eyes of other people really need in accordance with others' viewpoints. Do not get stuck with our own perspective. Do not give gold to people who need a hoe. Do not give hoes the people who need books. Do not give books to people who needed to eat.

So if we want to be good in the eyes of others:

* Be faithful to that does not exist.

Its very easy to offense and talk about other people badness when they are not around. They can not defend themselves. Therefore, anyone who is not loyal to something does not exist, indeed they are weak people who do not have power to do anything. Brother, do not ever talk anyone badness. Your friends will think: "He's talking about other people badness when they are not here. Does he also talks my bad if I was not here? " When you have this, others will not longer trust you.

* Ask: "What can I help?"

Sure other people need help. But they hesitate to ask. So the question is really shows your willingness to help others. And, because you can help, then you're adding your value to the others. Asking questions like this shows your quality. Especially when you really help with the best quality.

* Sensitive to the needs of others.

Start from small things. Take a drink for a friend who was eating. Give help when your friend bring luggage that is too heavy and many. Delivering the message. Giving a lift home. SMS to friends and say hello.

Then increased to something greater. Offering loans to friends who really need it. Spend some time with your friends when they need someone to talk to. Visiting sick friend. Helps friend's wedding preparations. And so on.